Sparky: We Live The Dom/Sub Dynamic Day To Day

A “My Fetish Life” interview with Sparky (30)

Sparkles J. Dog (Sparky) sub/pup 30 5’10” / 177cm 140 lbs / 64kg Bay Area, California

sadOsam: How long have you already been living out your kinky side and how did you come to that?

Sparky: I’ve been living a kinky life for about 11 years now with my Master/Daddy/husband. I’ve always been interested in kinky things like bondage for years, but never had a chance to try it out till I met my Daddy 11 years ago. He wasn’t really into kink, but gave it a chance because he knew it was something I really wanted to pursue. We discovered puppy play within a few weeks of getting together and that’s been our dominate kink, but we also do bondage, S/M, diapers, chastity, and experiment with other things that have caught our attention.

sadOsam: What’s especially important for you there?

Sparky:  For Daddy and I, I think the most important parts are the puppy play and the Dom/sub traits. We live the Dom/sub dynamic day to day. I do the chores and cook to maintain the household. I ask permission to spend money on non-essentials. I keep Daddy informed if I go somewhere unusual–like the grocery store for something we forgot to buy the day before–so he knows I’m safe. He takes care of me in turn and sees that my needs are met and our mutual goals accomplished.

We incorporate a lot of puppy stuff into our lives too. While I don’t spend all day in pup mode, we still have some pup stuff that is really important. We play around with the squeaky toys, I wag even when I don’t have a tail on, I try to bark when I’m answering a yes or no question, he gives me pets a lot, things like that. Since moving here, we’ve been able to do more pup stuff during puppy moshes in the area, so we’ve been able to fit more pup time in, including full on headspace pup mode.

sadOsam: Do you have special sexual and fetish preferences?

Sparky: Puppy play is definitely the highest on the list. While we had initially only come across it while looking up my interest in bondage, it’s become one of the most prominent things we do in our daily lives alongside the Dom/sub dynamic. When I get into headspace, I feel a lot more relaxed and can disconnect from stress a bit and, hopefully, be able to hold onto some of that calm when I’m back at work the next day.

We have also done a lot with chastity over the years. We haven’t done much in the way of locking up recently (mostly due to device interactions with works clothes) there’s the restriction that I’m not allowed to get off unless I’m given permission.

sadOsam: What kind of guys do you like?

Sparky: My taste in guys is all over the place lately actually. I would say most recently my taste has been more along the lines of hairy men, either muscled or stocky and defined, with well kept beards. Think the best example I can think of is Paul McNulty (djpjm); that’s actually a pretty good fit! Looking at my Tumblr feed though, there’s all sorts of variety, though the stocky muscle guy is definitely higher on my list lately.

Something that developed over the years that I hadn’t expected is my preference in asses. Never thought I’d have a preference one way or another, but a few years ago, I started noticing guys (especially when they fit the traits I just mentioned) with nice beefy asses. I’m simultaneously turned on and jealous. I’ve found that I want to have an ass like that; firm and filling out the back of my shorts. That’s not the easiest thing to accomplish, so in the meantime, I’ll admire it on others.

Beyond physical appearance, since Daddy and I moved to California, we’ve spent a lot of time trying to make connections with people in the kink/puppy communities. So, being able to converse, having common interests–or being able to interact regarding topics that aren’t shared–and walking away from an interaction wanting more are really important. We look to get to know guys that are authentic or at least as authentic as anyone can be. I’ve had my hopes dashed by more than a few pups who flaked on us when we lived in a place with almost no other pups around, so when a guy follows up and doesn’t flake on plans we’ve made, I start wagging my tail.

It’s hard to put into words what I like in this regard because it’s all over the place and changes from time to time, but this is what I’m experiencing now.

sadOsam: What was your hottest experience until now?

Sparky: This one is difficult to answer! We’ve had a lot of great experiences together over the years, so there’s a lot of smaller experiences, but they’re usually brief before getting back to more mundane stuff. I think the one that jumps to mind that was pretty interesting was one of the few actual punishments Daddy has given me.

A year or so after we first got together, I was being really difficult and really annoying Daddy a lot. When it finally became too much, Daddy brought me to the bedroom and had me strip and stand in front of him. He started jerking me to get me hard and after I did, he pulled out the duct tape. He tightly wrapped layer after layer of tape around my dick, balls, and around my groin. Since it was direct contact with the skin, I realized it was going to make getting it off in the morning rough and painful. He tore off extra strips for my nipples too.

For a while, Daddy would tie me up for bed so I couldn’t play with myself in my sleep, and he did that night too, but tighter than usual. He secured my leather ankle and wrist restraints to me and had me get in bed curled up on my back. My wrist restraints were chained closely to each other and my collar and my ankles were chained to my wrists with a slightly longer chain. It was not an easy position to be in.

Once I was secured, Daddy covered me with a blanket, shut off the light, and left the room. I did not sleep that night since I couldn’t get into a comfortable position, I needed to pee (which wouldn’t have been possible even if I hadn’t been chained, since the duct tape sheath was completely sealed), and I was disappointed that I had pushed so far that Daddy felt the need for the punishment in the first place. I was also incredibly horny from the experience, but I didn’t enjoy it like I would have if it were a reward rather than a punishment.

Daddy came in early the next morning to let me out and held me while I recovered from the night’s stress and the duct tape removal. We’ve not had to do another punishment like that since then. We have other ways of handling things like that now, so stuff like the tight ties and duct tape are reserved for fun and not punishment.

sadOsam: Are there things/dreams you want to experience once?

Sparky: There’s one that springs to mind that caught me a bit off guard when I realized it, but the idea of cuckolding has grabbed my attention. Specifically, Daddy finding another sub that managed to dominate his time and take his focus off me bit by bit–not so there’s no love, but in a way that makes it clear that the new boy is going to be getting a lot more attention. Over time, it would develop that he would receive more privileges while I lost more. He would get to cum more while I would go months without getting unlocked. He would get fucked more while I could only get occasional relief from a vibrator. I’d be taking on more chores while he spent more time on anything he wanted to do.

Eventually, he’d start working on convincing Daddy to make things harder for me.

“I don’t want you to have to focus on two boys. Could we tie him up while you fuck me, Daddy?”

“I think maybe he’s jacking off with his device on, maybe we should get a more secure one and keep him locked permanently.”

“He keeps hogging the bed on purpose. I want to hogtie him for bed every night.”

When Daddy isn’t around, he’d taunt me with everything he was doing and had planned. I’d think about talking to Daddy about it, but I’d wonder how he’d react and if he’d believe me over the new golden boy.

It’s a weird catch-22. It’s like chastity: you want to be locked up, but while you’re locked up, you want to get off to the fact that you’re in chastity and can’t get off. The fantasy of cuckolding is confusing because it would imply that the relationship is fundamentally different, but the idea is still exciting. Not sure if anything like that would ever happen with Daddy and I, but if it does, I’ll certainly hate it and love it at the same time.

You can find Sparky on Tumblr.