How long have you already been living out your kinky side, and how did you come to that?
I have been practicing since 2015 but… I think I have been drawn to BDSM since I was a child. I remember a cartoon scene turned me on a lot from Tintin (Flight 747 to Sydney). A tied up personne and where the bad guy give him a serum of truth. As a teenager I discovered websites of masters from the French BDSM scene (Skinlatex, Chapshard, Masternantes). I fantasized about taking the place of those I saw in photos or videos. It took me a long time to take the step to go from fantasy to reality. Now, I’m living the experiences that I want to live, and i am ready to travel for it.
BDSM allowed me to meet the one who shares my daily life. I started with him. He is my BF and my dominant on a daily basis : Monsieur. (Monsieur on recon/Monsieur75 on IG)
I wanted this torture to end but at the same time I’ve had the desire that it would continue even harder.
Whats especially important for you there?
I am very curious about new experiences and sensations. I am also very playful. I see BDSM as a hobby, like a game that allows me to let go (not like Elsa in Frozen XD). I especially like it when my brain switches OFF and you just have to follow orders. I particularly like sensory isolation. It is, in my opinion, one of the most advanced practices of BDSM. It’s a bit of a paradox when you know that in everyday life I’m a bit clostrophobic.
It requires a very strong trust in the dominant who takes control of the mind and body of the sub. I like to be tied up, blindfolded, controlled breathing, sound in the ears (white noise or hypnosis routine), a but plug (inflatable or electric), clamps on the nipples, electro on the penis … all with a dose of poppers. In these situations, the brain does not know where to fix its attention, time stops, and the body enters in a mixture of pain and well-being.
I also like meetings (gone 2 years in Leatherpride in Antwerpen). I discovered in this environment full of caring, interesting and beautiful people. The gaming sessions are above all a human encounter. Either way, it’s impossible for a submissive to play if trust has not been created with the dominant.
How can you build up trust if you’re visiting a Master for the first time?
That’s a very good question. First, I talk to him before the meeting. I look at his friend list on recon to see if I know any of them. If so, I contact him to find out if the Dominant is trustworthy. In fact, I have always had great encounters, with caring, respectful dominants. But before a meeting you have to take the time to discuss things with him. You have to discuss with the dominant your limits but also your fantasies and possible practices.
I also look at photos of the dominant on social networks to see his practices and to see if he seems to be respecting the safety rules. Finally I try to have contact with submissives who have already played with this dominant to know if he is trustworthy.
Then I have also kind of a backup: I always let someone of my friends know where I am going to play and with whom.
Have you ever had bad experiences?
No, never bad experiences, on the contrary I’ve had good meetings only and most of them have become friends.
Do you have special sexual and fetish preferences?
About my dress fetish : I’m into rubber, sportswear (wrestler, cyclist), white socks, sneakers, motorbike gear. About my practices : I like discovering new things. I discovered that the pain was interesting to deal with especially in the nipples. One of the ultimate things I’m looking for is electro cum without hands as you can see in my Twitter account. I also like to be tied up, be in a sling to make myself widen (fist), sensory isolation that allows me the most to let go and forget about everyday life, e-stim, edging and milking too and bondage/ropes games (especially be suspended like a puppet).
I also like the periods of chastity imposed on me by my boyfriend (when they don’t last too long). Chastity makes me even more asking of play and sex.
What kind of guys do you like?
I like guys who naturally are dominators. Difficult to explain but it’s kind of an immediate feeling that makes me feel submissive to him. Charisma and natural authority I guess.
What was your hottest experience until now?
I loved being strapped to a bondage chair, blindfolded, white noise in my ears, a gas mask over my head coupled with breath control. A fuck machine that tirelessly moved in and out, electro on the cock and clamps on the breasts (with increasing pain). Be tied up like this for an hour, torn between the wish that all this torture would end but also that it would continue and even harder. I didn’t know which pain the dominant will decide to increase, neither if i will be able to calmly catch my breathing or if i will have to fight harder to breathe. Just telling you again this story is making me… exciting/hard.
Are there things/dreams you want to experience once?
I’m still enjoying to meet new people, more of than with worldwild lockdown, and experiencing new sensations. Each dominant is different in the way they establish dominance and take control of the submissive’s body and mind. There are still many things that I have not tried and that I want to discover step by step. I recently discovered whip on my back and my master/bf would like to introduce me again to piss play, for example. I like the smells of socks more and more and want to try breath control with the smell of socks. One of my ultimate fantasies is hypnosis. I don’t really know if it’s possible to mix hypnosis and bdsm, but if someone knows and would like to make me discover… Send me a DM on Twitter ;).
born2obey
1988
France
