Heya dear readers, I’m sitting here today and talking with Meeko, a really adorable pup from around Chicago. Please Meeko, could you tell us a bit about yourself? Who are you, what do you all like and are you all into?
Meeko
1994
Chicago
I’m actually from Chicago proper, not the suburbs (local humor) 😋
It’s so hard to just talk about yourself, but basically I refer to myself as the Gender Chaotic Puppy. I identify as trans, specifically gender fluid and my pronouns outside of kink are she/her they/them – but in play I do not mind masculine pronouns. I am a Dom switch. My kinks are humiliation and degradation, and the vehicles I use to express this is pup play, sissy play, and ABDL.
My one and only true fetish is tighty whities. I own a beta pupper that I adore and he is my romantic partner. We also share a D/s relationship as well.
I work in healthcare compliance and human resources. I’m in law school, and otherwise I am a bit of a movie monster nerd and avid anime lover.
The Gender Chaotic Puppy. Kinda sounds like a cool superhero name 😉 How did you find your way into the fetish and pet play world? What was your initial contact there?
You know, I accept kink as my super power 🤣
Interestingly I entered the community while I was married to someone who was a muggle (vanilla). I asked if we could open up our relationship because I knew I had some unexplored deep sexual fantasies. Ultimately it didn’t work out, but the first point of contact was a Dom that was well respected here in Chicago. He taught me so much and I will always be grateful.
I still consider him a very close friend and he is one of only two people in the community that I seek advice from for various kink related issues – from safety to proper ethics. He’s also the one that “forced” me to be a pup and he introduced me to a few pups my first time in a leather bar. One of which became a really well known puppy.
Those were the days before pup play had become as mainstream and before leather events were catering to us. Those days there was a very big divide between traditional leather and pup play. We were looked at unfavorably by most to say the least.
Interestingly I thought I wanted to only be a sub, I was mortified the first time I interacted with a pup because I was so ignorant of the culture. It took my arms and legs being tied by my first Dom, and making me rely on my knees and elbows to “walk,” with a puppy tail plug in my cunt for me to go – ohhhhh now I get why this is fucking hot, WRUFF indeed 🤣🤣🤣
Haha and now it’s a widely hot scenario for most. So you’re in since the days before it got widely popular. That can’t have been easy for you then? I mean, not just because of the strange looks even from other fetishists for pup play back then, also because of the extreme masculinism idolization of “fetish men” in the entire scene.
Wow. That was very on point.
It’s no secret that pup play was born out of the traditional leather scene. If you were to draw a diagram, pup play would have a dotted line to what is sometimes referred to as “old guard”. While this is not the only factor to consider, the leather community still shaped the roots of pup play and definitely created a barrier to access for anyone who was not young, attractive, and a white cisgender male. It’s important to note that this is still a problematic issue in the community, but thankfully not anything like it was.
For me personally though, it created quite the identity crisis. I am a very effeminate person and so I often felt very out of place and this was made worse as I came to terms with being transgender. It was quite the dichotomy to feel so liberated and embraced by a community that I feared would shun my identity as a trans-fem person.
I don’t tell many about this, but I am proudly three (3) years sober – but during those times I had a rather severe drinking problem. I believe this shame unfortunately added to my alcohol abuse. Thankfully, I got sober and I began to see a much needed shift in the right direction throughout the community. Events like IPAHW became extremely affirming and many other spaces acknowledged trans puppies.
Suddenly it was apparent that the pup community had the capacity to uphold the trans community and so I decided to take a leap of faith and come out.
First of all: Congratulations on those 3 years. I wish you for them to become many more. And I am glad you got to see the better side of how the fetish community can be and become. It should be a place where everyone is welcome.
That said, you seemed to have made your troubles into your strengths. You became the “gender chaotic puppy” 😉 is the genderfluidity also something you like to “play” around with in play too so to say? Exploring the different facettes with playmates?
Daww thank you puppy. That was very kind scritches
The beauty of my gender and it’s fluidity is I am not confined to one role. For so long I believed it was a weakness, but actually it’s my greatest strength. Having a really well equipped play space we can determine what turns you on and what you want. Then it’s easy to meet people in many kinky scenarios.
If a smol beta pup wants a Alpha/Handler to flog him on my cross then make him piss on a puppy training pad while I make him his dinner in his dog bowl. Done.
If a little diaper boy wants a Mommy to spank and fuck him on my bench for wetting his tighty whities – then put him in a pink diaper while calling him every degrading name known in the English language. Done.
If a masculine rubber boy wants to be turned into a caged little sissy bitch while calling me Sir/Mistress – then he can be edged in my latex vacuum bed before I dress her up and eat her pussy on my swing. Done.
That ability to be comfortable in many roles is something I am proud of. It also allows me to explore submission in a way that has been very liberating. Making people feel safe as they explore their fantasies is such a perverted little joy. They know I won’t judge them, and I’ll definitely respect them – as I turn them into the depraved little sluts everyone already knew they were. 😈
Funny enough, those all have an intriguing side to them.
Do you have some roles that are more set than others in certain scenarios?
Oh that’s a tough question.
I really fall into a Daddy role really easily, but being a puppy is probably the role I can assume the quickest. It’s the one I have identified with the longest. I really do enjoy actually being a puppy regardless of submission or Dominance and my beta really helped bring that back out in me.
As a more Dominant person I had provided that space for others to be a puppy for so long I had forgotten how important it was for me to pup out as well.
One of the things I love about my beta is his ability to make me feel subby at times when I especially need it. It’s not often, but it is so valuable to me that his own abilities have broadened since we have met.
Hehe that’s a good play partner who can sense such things. And do you also happen to go into more often into certain gender facettes in them?
My beta and I have such a fluid dynamic. He is cisgender and masculine so while his identity does not change much, as romantic partners I am typically his girlfriend. In fact, he calls me “little lady” when I am acting – well – extra.
We obviously have an Alpha/beta dynamic, but we also have a unique Dad/son dynamic that is a constant in our romantic and kink relationship.
We’ve definitely explored other dynamics and liked some – but I can’t be giving out all my secrets. After all, a little mystery is good for all those horny little locked puppies out there 😈
What and how were you brought to abdl domming initially? There are many who get attracted to the sub side for the headspace, but what’s the attraction as a dom?
Oh this is such a great question.
Since I am all over the spectrum, it should come as no surprose that I do enjoy wearing diapers, but it’s only for a very short amount of time. I just can’t connect to being submissive in any form for a really long time.
Several years ago I dated a sub who was a DL and wore 24/7 and during that time I realized that I got a raging boner when a guy wore and called me Daddy.
After him, I dated another person who wore 24/7 who was more of an AB and again, I loved it.
I realized that there was intersectionality between the pup community and the ABDL community and that’s when I began to realize that I truly enjoy putting a boy in a diaper and making him feel smol.
I enjoy degrading and humiliating him in his little diaper and for me, that gets me off more than providing the space for someone to just play –
ALTHOUGH I do enjoy both.
It fits my personality more to be a caregiver and to control a situation and since I need verbal communication and naughty talk in all of my kink expressions, little ones naturally gravitated towards me when they wanted to tap into the more taboo reasons they wear.
I want to note I only play with those of age. Don’t want there to be any confusion with what I mean.
I also began to realize that so few were allowing diaper boys the ability to explore heavy bondage (at least they weren’t posting it) so I made it a point to change that because the two are not mutually exclusive even if we aren’t used to seeing it. I get littles from all over wanting to play due to these moves so I think I am onto something and it’s very hot to me.
That is true, I haven’t seen that much done in that regard. There still seems to be a level of personal shame for having such an interest, and don’t think it suitable to be posted. And I guess there’s still many who still need to wrap their brain around that interest, and don’t feel yet comfortable or selfsecure enough to play their bdsm with dl aspects. Which is both a shame. But it’s great that you can provide such a space to the ones searching for it.
Over all you seem to be very focused on providing a secure space. It’s easy to see you count that as vital in a scene. Why do you think so though? And what else do you see as important for yourself as factors for play?
I appreciate this question so much because it is so important to talk about.
As a Dom, my main concerns are safety, and not causing any emotional harm. Regarding safety, I never engage in a scene that I am unsure of or that I know could be unsafe. Every sub I play with learns the traffic light safe words (Red, Yellow, Green) and they are quizzed upon their arrival. If they fail, they are dismissed.
I do this so they always have a set of safe words they can take with them after me into any other scenes they have.
I have conversations with them and ask what words are off the table, such as “fag,” “rape” etc… and if anything is identified I stay away from it. New subs are also given a short one page sheet that they complete so that I have in writing what they are interested in and what their limits are.
I truly believe in consent every step of the way. I also advocate that consent can change, and if they are uncomfortable and do not want to do something they previously stated they did – that this is fine they merely need to identify it.
I get subs who tell me they are intimidated by what they see on Twitter, I always remind them that this is what me and the sub agreed on in the scene and that it is not representative of what we would necessarily agree on in a scene.
I do not mean to say that every Dom should approach these things in the exact same manner as I do, but I do believe that every Dom should have these conversations and every sub should have their expectations managed.
Fantasy is a powerful aphrodisiac in our community. The reality is though that you can not have fantasy without clear safety measures put in place and a belief that your limits will be respected.
This is my philosophy and it has served me well. I believe it’s why I have subs who I have played with for years and I pride myself on a realistic approach to kink.
I simply do not have time nor the patience to keep everything in the fantasy realm. If you want to masturbate thinking about the fantasy – I’m not your Dom.
My best advice for new comers:
If you are Dominant, you have certain responsibilities. If you are brand new to the community – it’s better to ask other Dom’s about things you do not understand and formulate an approach instead of putting subs in danger or running the risk of being labeled as a predator.
If you are a sub, and brand new my best advice is to never tell a Dom you will do “anything” or that you “do not have limits”.
If you believe that, I assure you that you do have limits and you are just ignorant. I could find your limits in a matter of a few minutes using only my hands. Trust me.
I look for subs who respect themselves, not for ones who will tell me what they think I want to hear. Contrary to popular belief, Dom’s need to trust subs just as much as subs need to trust us.
Those are some good words and advice to end on I believe 🙂 I hope they inspire some of the readers here. Thank you for taking the time for this interview, and I hope we’ll talk again sometime.
