Hey readers. I’m here today with adorable pup Charlie. Can you tell us a bit about yourself Charlie, what do you all like and are you all into?
Charlie
1998
East Coast
United States
Woof! ｖ・。・Ｖ I am a 22 yo pollyamouras German pup living in the United States. I am very submissive. Being so submissive has allowed me to explore and enjoy many kinks and fetishes. I love sexual headspaces that have me following orders and providing pleasure to others. It is hard for me to pinpoint specific kinks that I am into because typically if it turns the dom on it turns me on as well (of course there are a few exceptions).
However, if I did have to pick a favorite kink, it would be pupplay. Despite my kinky nature, I also enjoy romantic sexual experiences. One day you could have me tied up and clad in pup gear punishing me; The next, laying with me on a big soft bed as we cuddle and kiss. No matter what my tail will be wagging.
Have you always had that submissive side? And when did you first consciously start to look into it or register it, and eventually search for play in that style?
I discovered my submissive side when I was 16. Around that time I knew the kind of porn I liked and always found myself imagining being in the subs position. It wasn’t until college that I was able to fully explore my kinky/submissive side. My first true submissive experience was during a group play session at a friend’s house, there I discovered my love for bdsm.
What is important to you when playing with a dominant? Do you have a playstyle in partners you prefer?
The most important thing when playing with a dominant, to me, is communication. Both the dominant and the submissive need to be aware of their partners sexual wants and needs as well as each other’s limits. This goes beyond just setting up a safe word. Open communication can help steer a play session from a good one to a great one.
That being said, I do have a prefered playstyle that I look for in a play partner. I like a partner who isn’t afraid to explore their dominant side.
As a submissive, I derive pleasure from pleasing others.
A dominant who knows what they want from a submissive partner (or rather what they want to do to a submissive partner) and who will enact those wants upon me is what I look for.
However, I do have my physical limits and a few things that I’m just not into, so I also like a partner who will respect these boundaries. I also don’t mind a novice partner, helping a new dominant explore their new found passions can be just as great as playing with a experienced one. Just be open sexually and we’ll get along just fine.
What does being submissive give you? How do you personally feel the pleasure of submissiveness?
To me, submission, the act of giving up power, is an adventure and fun experience of physicality and sensations. Being submissive gives me feelings of excitement, vulnerability, and comfort. The excitement comes from the idea that you never know what the dominant might do next while vulnerability comes from the fact that you can not stop them from doing it. Submission provides comfort in the form of headspaces. Rather than worrying about the stresses of life the dominant puts you into a submissive headspace where your only worry is the simple pleasing of your superior.
For example, pupplay revolves around being in pup headspace. In pup headspace, you could go from being a stressed graduate student to an obedient, tail wagging, armpit sniffing, panting, barking, bone fetching dog with your handlers commands being your only care and focus.
I feel the pleasure of being submissive by allowing myself to be put into the headspace that the dominant wants me to be in.
Being in the state of mind that gives the dominant the most pleasure gives me pleasure.
Of course I might put up some “resistance” towards it, but having that broken only makes the headspace stronger.
Giving up power to be something simple, pleasurable, and sexy to a dominant is what it means to experience submissivness. The experience is enjoyed through the lens of the headspace, but controlled by the dominant. I can be told to play with a bone :3 or be put In cage overnight, but as long as I am in the headpace I will enjoy it.
What are some of the differences you experience in different submissive mindsets? Where are they the most striking?
There are many levels of submissivness. I have experienced a multitude of different submissive mindsets. In my opinion a submissive mindset is dictated by the amount and type of control you give to the dominant.
On the more vanilla end, for example, I have had romantic sex where I am in the doggy position; the top has one hand holding my arms behind my back while the other pins my head to the pillow. In this situation I had given the top control over my body positioning as a way of making the love making more enjoyable for them.
Another submissive mindset I have experienced is humiliation. Humilation requires that you don’t give up complete control to the dominant, but rather you maintain a sense of self. The dominant uses the idea that you don’t have control over a specific situation to make you feel helpless and humiliated.
A good example of this is when a dominant tied me up and forced my face into his smelly shoe. I tried to resist having my noes shoved into it but alas had no choice but to shamefully smell it. I have many embarrassing submissive mindsets that I have experienced and enjoyed (any submissive activity can become an embarrassing one).
Another submissive mindset is the giving up of sexual sexual release (typically through a chastity/key holder situation). As of today I have had my cock locked up for 5 frustrating months (1 month to go). This type of submissive mindset varies from others in the fact that it extends beyond the bedroom play session. It is a low maintenence form of submission that can be done for long periods of time. This slow and continuouse submissive experience definitely feels different than just getting into pup gear for a couple of hours. You are constantly aware of your submissive position: at home, in class, at work, at the store, 24/7.
To me, submissive mindsets are defined by the type and amount of control you give to the dominant. Sometimes I give up complete control; sometimes I give up control but pretend to resist (the act of being broken can be just as erotic); and sometime I give up little control (times I’m trying to have a mutual romantic experience).
What’s the hardest submissive mindset for you? And what’s one you’d like to experience once, for example in a scenario?
The hardest submissive mindset for me are those involving a dominatrix. Due to my submissive nature I could find some enjoyment in being controlled by a woman. However, I am a gay which adds a level of being sexually unattracted to a female dom. Despite having some limitations to the submissive mindsets I can do, there are a few I have yet to try.
One submissive scenario I would like to experience is marking. I would love to have a dominant write things on my body, derogatory descriptors defining my submissive mindset. I just imagine having words like slut and bitch written all over my body, maybe some tally marks on my ass indicating… well I’ll leave that part up to your imagination ;).
Another scenario I would like to experience a 24/7 pup/slave session for week. It would start with me being put into a submissive headspace. I would be put into whatever gear the dom deemed fit (chastity, latex suit, boots, pup hood, gas mask, harness, collar, ect…). The week would be spent training me to be the perfect sub for the dom. They could turn me into a rubbery drone or an eager, tail wagging pup who waits for his master to return. I could be kept in a cage or allowed to sleep at the foot of the bed. It would essentially be a week where I gave up complete control to the dominant.
