How long have you already been living out your kinky side and how did you came to that?
I had my first contact with the fetish world when I was 16, when I got my first PC and unsupervised access to the internet. From there on I have been exploring all the things i deem interesting (mostly femdom and bondage at this time). My first real experience with fetish was when i got 21 years old. My first bondage session was with an older, inexperienced Dom. This experience was a pretty negative one which taught me to choose my partners more carefully. In 2018 i got myself a partner. I met him on recon and a few days later in real world. That’s when i got my first taste of real inescapable heavy bondage, which was pretty scary at the first moment i realized i’m at his mercy. But also pretty nice. In 2019 we moved in together. At this point, my fetish life properly started. With an own play space and an open relationship with my partner, I have all the possibilities I want. From then on i got to know a lot of people all over the fetish spectrum and hat the chance to try much stuff.
This experience was a pretty negative one which taught me to choose my partners more carefully.
Oh it is never nice if the first experiences is a negative one. Do you want to tell us why it has become such a disaster?
We met at an fetish hotel here in Stuttgart. There he tied me up and without warning or any empathy he inserted a butt plug in me. Back then i was not experienced or stretched so it was pretty painful … so much that I passed out for a few seconds.
Because I still was a naive or dumb (or even both) I didn’t stop the session … Later he bound me on a cross. After some time i told him that i have circulation problems. He untied me from the cross but he forgot that it is necessary to help me standing. You can imagine what happens to your head if he falls from 1.94m down on earth and I still had knee problems a few months later. That was definitely my last experience with this guy and it shook me so much in general about bdsm so that I deleted my profile. Because of this experience im a little more conscious about safety and well being of the play partner today than maybe others.
How do you date nowadays?
Rule number one is safety and consent. I learned that the hard way. Also hygiene is a big point. I want to have a session where everyone can go home afterwards with a big smile on the face, eager to come back.
I have several profiles on different kink sites. I have nice profiles with a good profile text and pictures. Before I play I want to sit down with the play partner and have a talk about taboos and preferences. This is really important to me. No talk – no play!
Do you have also other advices for rookies who are searching for their first real life experience?
Don’t meet directly for action. Best would be if you meet the first time just for a drink and a talk. If you feel that you match, that you can trust your play partner, then meet him another day for action.
Trust your gut instincts. If you get the feeling that something is not right so it is probably better not to meet for kink play. But of course everyone is nervous if he meets a person for the first time. Be aware of the risks, don’t rush …. you have all the time you need and if the first guy don’t match probably the second does.
It is the BDSM paradox that the bottom sets the limits and the top has to accept it if he wants to play with you. Insist on that right!
If you’re a top, don’t break the set rules of the game and accept the bottom’s limits. This is the way consent works. Think before you act and inform you about techniques. You’re responsible for the safety of your bottom.
Do you have special sexual and fetish preferences?
As bottom I really like bondage in combination with sensory deprivation. That gets me into a sub headspace.
When top: i want my bottom in preferably tight latex and bound in a way where i can reach al the important bits without him being able to move. i also love tying hands and legs together like in a bitchsuit and then setting the guy in my lap. so i can snuggle and edge and do al sort of things to him while i can feel his body react and squirm
What kind of guys do you like?
As top: I’m into twinks. Guys that are light and lithe in build, preferably without a beard and shaven under the arms and around the junk. i want to be able to manhandle guys lifting them around as needed. i also like athletic guys that put up a fight where i can use my power to subdue them.
When bottom: I dont really care as long as they are clean, and i can look someone in the face and take them seriously. There the manners and the intelligence are more important to me. I have to be able to trust the guy.
How does it come that you do also fetish photography?
I wanted to take photos for a loooong time, but i never had the money to get a camera. I finally saved up enough money in december 2019, so i got myself a camera (Nikon D750) this was also the time when my fetish life started to pick up pace fast.
so, one got to the other. Also i usually do not like to take pictures of people, but for fetish and “erotic” pictures i somehow like it. I also would like to get into film making (on the technical side).
What is the attraction of kink photography or even kink filming?
I like the technology, also i am a gearhead in a technology way. I’m a event technician by trade, and have studied audio engineering, so im right at home with media. Plus i like seeing the fruits of my labor, and what better way to see something than by taking photos.
What was your hottest experience yet?
One of my twink bottoms got around to switching. So he put me in latex and tied me spreadeagled to my bed. He put a electro plug in my ass, plugs in my ears, a S10 gasmask with latex hood on my head. He then put caps on my eyes, blinding me.
After that he played with the electro and edged me for a good while with some poppers added in for good measure. i absolutely loved him sitting or laying on me with his rubber crotch pressed in my face with me being unable to move. i came several times.
Are there things/dreams you want to experience once?
I want to experience suspension bondage. I want to try and sleep a night in segufix / latex bag. I’d love to be put in rubber strapped to a cast of my body and then treated like cattle / drone, with a bit of electro and chemistry to keep me docile.
RTFM
1993
Stuttgart
Germany