How to recognize abuse in BDSM relationships
One of the key issues in BDSM has always been how to distinguish a healthy BDSM relationship from one based on abuse and exploitation....
The physiology of BDSM
We need to rescue the word “sadist”. In the vanilla world it is often taken as a synonym of “cruel”, but in the BDSM...
The origins of dominance and submission
While sadomasochism can be justified by the ability of pain to enhance pleasure and the happiness brought by the endorphin high, the Dominance/submission (D/s)...
The seven elements of submission
Although much has been written about the different techniques used in bondage and sadomasochism, less effort has been put into systematizing the dynamics of...
Panic attacks in BDSM scenes
Among the many problems that can happen in a scene, panic attacks can be a serious one, especially if the Top doesn’t know how...
Torture in the Ottoman empire
You don’t control an empire by being nice. Strict discipline and fear keep a subjugated people in check. We saw how Peter the Great...
Torture then – torture now
‘There is nothing new under the sun’ is a worn-out cliché, but it applies to torture. No matter what you think, dream, fantasize about...
The Neuroscience of Spanking
What happens in the skin, the nerves and the brain during a spanking, and how it can help you improve your experience.
Does a spanking...
Spicing up your Spanking scene with hot peppers
How to use the capsaicin in hot peppers to make your bottom burn for hours with an exquisite afterglow.
One of the nicest things about...
Altered States of Consciousness in BDSM (sub-space |Top-space)
Understanding the different sub-spaces and their neurological basis.
BDSM stands for Bondage, Dominance-Submission, and Sado-Masochism, which are alternative sexual practices also called kink. Bondage consists in tying people up in exposed...
Kink ABC: The Hanky Code
Have you ever heard of the hanky code? It's truly a part of gay history and culture. And in this episode of the kinky...
Tawse | Tawsing
A semi academic history and perspective
Leather has served man since earliest days; the loin cloth, leather skirt, leather armour, leather saddle and many accoutrements...
NSDS: Providing Service, not Sex
In most power dynamics, a primary component is sex. Activities of pain, humiliation, bondage and so on are preludes to intercourse. Many dynamics extend...
Young, Dumb and Just Wanting Cum
When I first began my journey of kink, I knew deep within me I had a natural instinct and craving to serve others.
As many often see...
Fetish Definitions: Body Musk
Welcome again, knowledge seekers. No intro definition puns today, let's go right right into it. We'll start with a smell-related one. We've already touched...
FinDom & PayPig: Your Service and Your Money
Financial Domination (FinDom) has a bad reputation. In many fetishes, something can go wrong. Too much force, too tight bondage, these are dangerous as...
The Art of Mastering (1): About Power, Functions and Responsibility
If you are hoping for a simple recipe for master's here, I’ll have to disappoint you. While it is great to live SM as...
Fetish Definitions 2: Things you haven’t heard about
Did you know that there is a term for the love of learning? It is called
Sophophilia
"sophíā" = wisdom / learning (greek) ; "philia"...
Fetish Definitions #1 – Paraphilia, Objectophilia & more
A famous internet rule says: "If it exists/you can think of it, there's porn of it." (Rule 34).
This meme/rule supposedly was first created...
CONSENT – A Must and the Base for sane BDSM play
The Dominant has control, decides what is to be done by or to the submissive. That control begins when the subs consents. The consent...
